Bad Behavior

Hey Mom, Dad – Look, I’m Suing!

My promise to kids

By now you’ve all heard the story about New Jersey teen, Rachel Canning.  Miss Canning is attempting to sue her parents for financial support, among other things, after moving out of their home because she didn’t want to abide by their rules.  There has been a lot of commentary about the situation, with many folks recalling their own childhood and how their parents would have handed their butts to them if they had tried to pull such a stunt. (more…)


Commuter Chronicles: Unnecessary Confrontation


Why are people so confrontational these days???  And unnecessarily so.  While riding the commuter train one morning, there was a man (I refuse to say gentleman) sitting in the row in front of me listening to music with earphones.  In spite of the earphones, his music was EXTREMELY loud.  He was jamming, rocking in his seat, totally oblivious to the disturbance of other passengers.  Let me add that this guy looked to be in his early to mid 40’s.  Well a lady came over and KINDLY asked him to lower his volume, and this dude went OFF! 
I mean loud talking, neck rolling, and some eye ball rolling too!  Talking about, “I’m doing what I’m allowed to be doing, I’m wearing headphones.  I don’t care if you can hear it.  Maybe I’ll lower it when I get off the train.  Ain’t nobody else complaining!” I was like WTH???  The lady informed the conductor of what just happened, and he too told the guy that while yes, he may be wearing earphones, his music should not be heard by everyone in the train car.  Same song and dance from dude, so conductor says, “No problem, I’ll handle it”, and walks off talking into his radio.  About 10 seconds later, suddenly there was no music to be heard.  Uh huh, homeboy knew he was about to be thrown off that train, so he got his act together.
Dude, now was all of that even necessary?   I’m sure you felt like a fool afterwards, because you clearly looked like one.  And you had the nerve to say that no one else was complaining.  Of course not, who wants to deal with a unnecessarily confrontational idiot at 7 o’clock in the morning?  Who wants to get their day off to a negative start because you have no home-training?  I’ve already talked about grown folks with no manners Here.  Well, not only did dude not have any manners, but then he wanted to get indignant with it – like he was proud of it!  I am so tired of people who react first and think later.  That order should only be utilized in emergency situations.  
Dude is a regular train rider, so it will be interesting to see how his music-listening habits play out going forward.
Have you ever come across someone who was unnecessarily confrontational?  How was the situation handled?



What’s Going on With These Kids?!?!

Little Criminal

 Okay, I am the first to admit that my little angel is a hand-full.  I have a 2-year-old that’s very strong-willed, who tries to be slick, and who tries to out-smart her parents.  We don’t turn a blind eye to her behavior, nor do we make the “she’s just a baby” excuse.  She just turned 2, and we figured that since she’s in that stage of learning right from wrong, instead of us apologizing on her behalf while she runs off unaware of her actions, we teach her to apologize on her own and treat others nicely.  If I can “check” my 2-year-old, why can’t folks check their 5-year-old, their 10-year-old, or their 15-year-old???

What’s going on with these kids today?  I’ve been following the bullying story of Rebecca Ann Sedwick, the 12-year-old Florida girl who committed suicide last month after being bullied by a 14-year-old and a 12-year-old.  Both girls have been arrested and charged with felony aggravated stalking.  But here’s the kicker, the 14 year old allegedly posted on her Facebook page, “Yes ik [I know] I bullied REBECCA nd she killed her self but IDGAF [I don’t give a (expletive)]”.  Are you kidding me?!?!  So that’s how a 14-year-old is operating these days???  According to the arresting sheriff, the parents of the 14-year-old are in total denial that their daughter would ever do such a thing.

I live in an area, where crime is unfortunately a regular on the local news.  Too many times I have seen parents whole-heartedly defend their child who has just been charged with a serious crime – trying to place the blame on the other suspects.  The usual tune is, “My child is a good boy/girl, they would never do anything like this, they just fell in with the wrong crowd…” And this is even when the child has been caught in the act, caught red-handed, without a shadow of a doubt, etc. 

It seems like many young folks have such a cavalier attitude about life.  When I’m out in public I see kids that are just down right rude and mean for no good reason, and that’s even when the parents are present!  No one wants to see their child in trouble or going to jail, but at what point do you admit that your child has issues?  At what point do you put your child in check for their disrespectful, poor, or bad behavior?  I refuse to believe that a child just wakes up one day and decides to start raising hell out of the clear blue.

Oh yeah, and in that bullying case, the sheriff department is trying to determine if they can also charge the parents of one of the suspects.  

What are your thoughts?  What do you think of the Sedwick bullying case?  What do you think of parents that are in denial of their child’s negative behavior?