Month: November 2013

Thursday Thanks: Thanksgiving Gatherings


If there is one thing that I am thankful for is family. Thanksgiving is the major family get-together holiday. Many people love this time of year, while others hate it. Some folks are fortunate enough to have families that can come together and enjoy each others company, and then some are not so fortunate.  I’ve known folks where one section of the family doesn’t get along with the other, and it’s cause for a Thanksgiving filled with tension.


Thursday Thanks: Extended Family


The one thing I am thankful for is family.  Many people have certain criteria when it comes to who is considered to be a part of their family.  For some, it’s only immediate family, or only blood relatives, or those who married into their family.  For me, family is not just blood relatives or those related by marriage.  Having lived away from home for so long, family now includes the friends I’ve made along the way.  And for them, I am truly thankful. (more…)


Hey You… 16 Year Old, Listen Up!

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Growing up, I learned a lot by trial and error.  There are so many things that I sometimes wish I could go back and do over.  A few years ago I decided that going forward, I would no longer have any regrets.  As a result, I’ve been taking more risks, doing what makes me happy, and enjoying every minute of it!  In the fourth installment of 30 Things My Kids Should Know About Me, I am sharing today 10 things that I would tell my 16-year-old self if I could.

  1. You are perfect just the way you are.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with the way you look, so stop hiding.
  2. Enjoy your teenage years, this is the last time you’ll be bill-free.
  3. Don’t be afraid to take chances, you’ll never know the wonderful opportunities that await if you play it safe all the time.
  4. Don’t change who you are to accommodate other people and their insecurities.
  5. Don’t be in a rush to grow up. (See #2)
  6. If someone doesn’t like you for no apparent reason, it’s okay.  There’s probably something about you that they wish they had.
  7. Don’t be fooled by slick talkers who can quote bible scriptures at the drop of a hat.  The devil goes to church on Sunday too.
  8. Don’t allow fear to hinder you from reaching your goals.
  9. True friends aren’t going anywhere.  They’ll always be there for you, no matter how many miles separate you.
  10. Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something.  Just because they can’t doesn’t mean it applies to you.

What about you?  What would you tell your teenaged self if you could? 


Commuter Chronicles: Unnecessary Confrontation


Why are people so confrontational these days???  And unnecessarily so.  While riding the commuter train one morning, there was a man (I refuse to say gentleman) sitting in the row in front of me listening to music with earphones.  In spite of the earphones, his music was EXTREMELY loud.  He was jamming, rocking in his seat, totally oblivious to the disturbance of other passengers.  Let me add that this guy looked to be in his early to mid 40’s.  Well a lady came over and KINDLY asked him to lower his volume, and this dude went OFF! 
I mean loud talking, neck rolling, and some eye ball rolling too!  Talking about, “I’m doing what I’m allowed to be doing, I’m wearing headphones.  I don’t care if you can hear it.  Maybe I’ll lower it when I get off the train.  Ain’t nobody else complaining!” I was like WTH???  The lady informed the conductor of what just happened, and he too told the guy that while yes, he may be wearing earphones, his music should not be heard by everyone in the train car.  Same song and dance from dude, so conductor says, “No problem, I’ll handle it”, and walks off talking into his radio.  About 10 seconds later, suddenly there was no music to be heard.  Uh huh, homeboy knew he was about to be thrown off that train, so he got his act together.
Dude, now was all of that even necessary?   I’m sure you felt like a fool afterwards, because you clearly looked like one.  And you had the nerve to say that no one else was complaining.  Of course not, who wants to deal with a unnecessarily confrontational idiot at 7 o’clock in the morning?  Who wants to get their day off to a negative start because you have no home-training?  I’ve already talked about grown folks with no manners Here.  Well, not only did dude not have any manners, but then he wanted to get indignant with it – like he was proud of it!  I am so tired of people who react first and think later.  That order should only be utilized in emergency situations.  
Dude is a regular train rider, so it will be interesting to see how his music-listening habits play out going forward.
Have you ever come across someone who was unnecessarily confrontational?  How was the situation handled?