So many times I have said, or thought to myself, “I wish I could go back to undergrad and do it all over again, there are so many things I would do different.” I think I would have a totally different major, possibly attend a different school, take advantage of more opportunities, etc. Yeah, yeah, I know, “Shoulda, woulda, coulda…” But then when I think about it, my life’s journey probably would not be filled with the awesome people I met along the way. Okay, well some of them I could do without, but anyway…
So many times I think I tailored my life to fit other people’s expectations. I spent a lot of time making other people happy, and myself not so much. Fortunately I realize that I have to live MY life, not someone else’s idea of what my life should be. While I wish that I had come to this realization about 10 years ago, better late than never!
A few weeks ago, I found the following gem posted over at The Southern Belle. It spoke volumes to me, and was a reminder that I have to continue to take charge and live MY life to the fullest.
What do you think? Have you ever found yourself tailoring your life to fit someone else’s roadmap?
Two weeks ago, an older neighbor suffered a heart attack while cutting his grass, and passed away at the hospital. His passing has weighed on us (the neighbors) because no one really “knew” him. He was transported to the hospital as a John Doe.
Over the past two weeks, a few neighbors, through collective conversations, have been able to determine his name, that he was once married, and that he “has family down south”. He always kept to himself, rarely left the house, and no one witnessed any visitors – EVER. When we did see him, he would smile and waive hello as he entered or exited his home. The few conversations were brief and generic (ie. the weather, sports). While the neighbors have picked up his daily delivered newspapers, and cut his lawn, we wonder if his family even knows he’s gone? Has anyone missed his presence?
This has really had me thinking about how much we connect with one another. I know sometimes I can get consumed with daily life and go a few weeks without checking on any particular friend, but usually someone within our social group has made contact. The same with family. There’s always someone that has talked with somebody. I remember going to my 36 week checkup and being admitted into the hospital with pre-eclampsia. After 2 days, one of my neighbors approached my husband because they felt something was wrong after noticing my car was gone and they hadn’t seen me waddling around. While it wasn’t the best circumstances, it felt good to know that my absence was noticed.
This situation has really struck a nerve with me. What part do I play in the lives of others? I’ve decided that whether it’s an email, card, phone call, or text, I will do a better job of keeping in touch.
What do you think of this situation? Do you know anyone this has happened to? How often do you keep in touch with friends and family?
Yeah, you read that right. No, I’m not nasty, nor do I stink. The truth of the matter is I haven’t had the TIME to take a long hot bath since Petunia was born. Actually, it was before I was pregnant, since they warn pregnant woman to steer clear of hot baths, jacuzzis, etc. In fact it’s a rare day that I can even use the bathroom facilities by myself – unless she’s asleep.
Now do I like hot baths? Why yes, of course! Who doesn’t??? I remember having all of the scented bubble baths, the fizzy tablets, the blow-up neck pillow, the scented oils that made my tub a slippery hazard zone… Even as a kid, I just had to have Mr. Bubble! Even though sometimes it was whatever dishwashing liquid that was on hand. (No really, Joy made LOTS of bubbles – plus it got you squeeky clean.) I would just sit there and lounge until the water turned cold and my hands and feet looked like a wrinkled up prune. Those were the good old days… Now it’s all about the 5 minute hot shower. If I’m lucky, I can actually get a whole 10 minutes! You know, now that I think about it, the only person in the house that does get the long hot baths, bubbles and all, is Petunia! I think we’re going to have to make some changes in that department. LOL!
What about you? Do you like hot baths? Do you get to take them often?
NaBloPoMo’s theme for August is HOT! The first question up is “Do you like hot drinks such as coffee and tea?”
Now, did I say that Starbucks is my friend? Well, we have somewhat of a love-hate relationship. I looove the warm drinkable goodness, but my wallet is a hater. She and I are still trying to come to an acceptable agreement on spending. Okay let’s be clear, I’m not necessarily a coffee-addict. I don’t NEEED a cup of coffee to get my day going, but I do love hot drinks with whipped cream. Yes, whipped cream. Just like having any sandwich on a croissant, whipped cream just makes it that much better – to me anyway. Don’t judge me.
Caramel Macchiato with whipped cream, Caramel Apple Spice (already has whipped cream), Vanilla Latte with whipped cream, Hot Chocolate with whipped cream, etc. And let’s not talk about when the Thanksgiving/ Christmas holidays roll around – Eggnog Latte with whipped cream please. Okay, I’m starting to drool… What are your favorite hot drinks?