Month: August 2013

Do You Live YOUR Life, Or Someone Else’s?

So many times I have said, or thought to myself, “I wish I could go back to undergrad and do it all over again, there are so many things I would do different.”  I think I would have a totally different major, possibly attend a different school, take advantage of more opportunities, etc.  Yeah, yeah, I know, “Shoulda, woulda, coulda…”  But then when I think about it, my life’s journey probably would not be filled with the awesome people I met along the way.  Okay, well some of them I could do without, but anyway…

So many times I think I tailored my life to fit other people’s expectations.  I spent a lot of time making other people happy, and myself not so much.  Fortunately I realize that I have to live MY life, not someone else’s idea of what my life should be.  While I wish that I had come to this realization about 10 years ago, better late than never!

A few weeks ago, I found the following gem posted over at The Southern Belle.  It spoke volumes to me, and was a reminder that I have to continue to take charge and live MY life to the fullest.

What do you think?  Have you ever found yourself tailoring your life to fit someone else’s roadmap?


Will They Miss You When You’re Gone?

Photo Credit: saavem

Two weeks ago, an older neighbor suffered a heart attack while cutting his grass, and passed away at the hospital.  His passing has weighed on us (the neighbors) because no one really “knew” him.  He was transported to the hospital as a John Doe.
Over the past two weeks, a few neighbors, through collective conversations, have been able to determine his name, that he was once married, and that he “has family down south”.  He always kept to himself, rarely left the house, and no one witnessed any visitors – EVER.  When we did see him, he would smile and waive hello as he entered or exited his home.  The few conversations were brief and generic (ie. the weather, sports).  While the neighbors have picked up his daily delivered newspapers, and cut his lawn, we wonder if his family even knows he’s gone?  Has anyone missed his presence?

This has really had me thinking about how much we connect with one another.  I know sometimes I can get consumed with daily life and go a few weeks without checking on any particular friend, but usually someone within our social group has made contact.  The same with family.  There’s always someone that has talked with somebody.  I remember going to my 36 week checkup and being admitted into the hospital with pre-eclampsia.  After 2 days, one of my neighbors approached my husband because they felt something was wrong after noticing my car was gone and they hadn’t seen me waddling around.  While it wasn’t the best circumstances, it felt good to know that my absence was noticed. 

This situation has really struck a nerve with me.  What part do I play in the lives of others?  I’ve decided that whether it’s an email, card, phone call, or text, I will do a better job of keeping in touch. 

What do you think of this situation?  Do you know anyone this has happened to?  How often do you keep in touch with friends and family?


I Haven’t Had a Hot Bath in 2 Years!

Photo credit: theswedish

Yeah, you read that right.  No, I’m not nasty, nor do I stink.  The truth of the matter is I haven’t had the TIME to take a long hot bath since Petunia was born.  Actually, it was before I was pregnant, since they warn pregnant woman to steer clear of hot baths, jacuzzis, etc.  In fact it’s a rare day that I can even use the bathroom facilities by myself – unless she’s asleep.

Now do I like hot baths?  Why yes, of course!  Who doesn’t???  I remember having all of the scented bubble baths, the fizzy tablets, the blow-up neck pillow, the scented oils that made my tub a slippery hazard zone…  Even as a kid, I just had to have Mr. Bubble!  Even though sometimes it was whatever dishwashing liquid that was on hand.  (No really, Joy made LOTS of bubbles – plus it got you squeeky clean.)  I would just sit there and lounge until the water turned cold and my hands and feet looked like a wrinkled up prune.  Those were the good old days…  Now it’s all about the 5 minute hot shower.  If I’m lucky, I can actually get a whole 10 minutes!  You know, now that I think about it, the only person in the house that does get the long hot baths, bubbles and all, is Petunia!  I think we’re going to have to make some changes in that department. LOL!

What about you?  Do you like hot baths?  Do you get to take them often?



Summer, Summer, Summertime…

Image by keokster
“Summer, summer, summer time.  Time to sit back and unwind. 

…School is out and it’s a sort of a buzz
A back then I didn’t really know what it was
But now I see what have of this
The way that people respond to summer madness
The weather is hot and girls are dressing less
And checking out the fellas to tell ’em who’s best…

…The temperature’s about 88
Hop in the water plug just for old time’s sake
Break to ya crib change your clothes once more
Cause you’re invited to a barbeque that’s starting at 4

Sitting with your friends cause y’all reminisce
About the days growing up and the first person you kiss…

…There’s an air of love and of happiness
And this is the Fresh Prince’s new definition of summer madness.”

 ~Summertime by Will Smith

I LOVE summer!  No matter how much I complain about the 90 degree days, the scorching heat, the humidity that laughs at my freshly done hair, there’s something about summer that relaxes me.  Maybe it’s the decrease in early morning traffic since the kiddies are out of school or the slower walking pace of the commuters as I catch the metro to work.  (If you’re not careful or paying attention, you’ll get run over – seriously.)

I think I enjoy summer because of the family memories that are made.  Most of my family is spread out across the country now, and summer is when we all manage to make our annual pilgrimage home to New Orleans.  In the midst of the heat and humidity, we have our family cookout, our group trip to the French Quarter, the Aquarium, and the River Walk.  I’ve never had so much fun sitting around talking, eating, laughing and sweating.

Soon we’ll be saying good bye to summer and swapping out the shorts and t-shirts for long sleeves and sweaters.  Until then, I’ll continue to enjoy my air conditioner and vanilla crème-flavored snowballs.


My Friend Named… Starbucks

NaBloPoMo’s theme for August is HOT!  The first question up is “Do you like hot drinks such as coffee and tea?”

 NaBloPoMo August 2013

Now, did I say that Starbucks is my friend?  Well, we have somewhat of a love-hate relationship.  I looove the warm drinkable goodness, but my wallet is a hater. 
She and I are still trying to come to an acceptable agreement on spending.  Okay let’s be clear, I’m not necessarily a coffee-addict.  I don’t NEEED a cup of coffee to get my day going, but I do love hot drinks with whipped cream.  Yes, whipped cream.  Just like having any sandwich on a croissant, whipped cream just makes it that much better – to me anyway.  Don’t judge me.

Caramel Macchiato with whipped cream, Caramel Apple Spice (already has whipped cream), Vanilla Latte with whipped cream, Hot Chocolate with whipped cream, etc.   And let’s not talk about when the Thanksgiving/ Christmas holidays roll around – Eggnog Latte with whipped cream please.   Okay, I’m starting to drool…   What are your favorite hot drinks?

Caramel Macchiato...just Like Starbucks
Photo: Yummly